Homosexuality thru my eyes n ideas

the famous Kama Sutra states that homosexual sex “is to be engaged in and enjoyed for its own sake as one of the arts.” love is regarded as an eternal force. It is seen as devotion between two people, whether romantic or platonic. common believe love and devotion are important in attaining Moksha or Liberation from the cycle of rebirths.

Sex was promoted within the context of a loving couple – usually heterosexual. On the other hand extremely ascetic schools of thought would have viewed sex as a distraction from the pursuit of Moksha.

  • Romantic love is only natural between a man and a woman, and it is impossible for two men or two women to experience the same form of love.
  • Since romantic love is only possible between a man and a woman, sex between two men or two women can only be the product of lust, and lust is wrong; therefore homosexual activities are wrong.
  • One of the three functions of marriage is Prajaa, the progeny for perpetuation of one’s family. A homosexual couple cannot procreate, and thus cannot be married.
  • Premarital and extramarital sex are wrong, and because homosexuals cannot marry, they should not engage in sexual relationships.
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Intelligent Men Control Greed

 

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Majority of the Chanakya quotes on wisdom are quite easy to understand and even this one.

तृष्णया मतिश्छाद्यते। तृष्णा बुद्धि पर आवरण डाल देता है। Greed/thirst puts a cover on intelligence.

In order to validate this Chanakya Sutra, you can try recalling a few mistakes from your past. On doing so you will find that many bad things happened only due to lack of self-control. What happened in past has already happened. All we can do is to learn from our Mistakes and try not repeating them.

  • No man cannot change his past, but every man can influence his future.

How Greed Works?

My personal research says that:

  • The trap of greed targets the inefficiency of a man to take accurate decisions in less time.
  • In addition, it exploits the instinctive desire within a man to win/gain something.

Greed and thirst are very similar. Like a thirsty man lost in desert desires to drink something (anything without considering pros or cons), in same manner a person under influence of greed acts without consideration. In such situations it is only with the help of self-control a man can stop himself from consuming the poisonous milky sap found in few types of cacti and continue looking for the cactus with clear non poisonous liquid.

It’s all about differentiating between “what’s really Right?” and “what appears right?”. All that glitters is not Gold.

Defeat the Greed/Thirst:

Greed is one of the deep rooted vices, but it can be dealt. The following points might help.

Avoid Haste: Give yourself sufficient time to evaluate the pros & cons before beginning a task. In most of the cases haste ends in waste.

In chapter 14 of chanakya neeti it has been stated that “A man regrets upon his act of sin after accomplishing it. If same wisdom be shown before performing the action, then the man will definitely attain Nirvana.

Use logic: Use your mind and be a man of reason. Remember that a wise man asks questions and proceeds only after acquiring a satisfactory answer.

Self ControlSelf control is very important. Be responsible towards oneself. You must have control on your cravings. Don’t allow the pain to sabotage your ability to take right decisions.

Follow Dharma: Be good be righteous.

 

The Reason Behind Friendship and Enmity

 

 

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हेतुतः शत्रुमित्रे भविष्यतः | i.e. there exists a reason behind friendship and behind enmity. This chanakya quote conveys a very direct and important message. Let’s dig deeper…

The reasons?

The reasons can be many, but the point to be noted is that there exists a reason for sure. There always exists a goal to be achieved. This goal might be big or small, beneficial or harmful, clear or unclear, direct or indirect, pious or impious,physical or mental, or short term or long term in nature.

If someone says that he is a friend or enemy without any reason then either he is telling a lie or is out of his mind. At most the person might be working for mental satisfaction without expecting any gains. Everyone has his own reasons usually known and sometimes unknown to oneself.

Do You Exactly Know the Answer for “The Why?”:

Do you really know or you are overlooking the exact reasons? It is very important to have clarity in mind about relationship with anyone. You must be fully aware about:

  • Your level of commitment in that relationship.
  • The person’s level of commitment.
  • The potential benefits you are likely to achieve.
  • The risks involved.
  • Life span of the relationship.
  • The opportunity cost.

* Whatever I am trying to convey has nothing to do with being wicked. All I want to say is that a man must be reasonable.

One Big Blunder:

If the majority has committed same mistake then it does not means that you must follow their footsteps. Most of the people do friendship with people of equal status. There is nothing wrong in it, but many do it for wrong reasons. The list is long, but the two very common reasons are:

  • Befriending someone with similar inabilities.
  • Befriending as mutual sympathy seekers.

Such approach restricts a person’s ability to improve and to grow. If possible and if reasonable then a person must try to befriend a person who has more money, knowledge, skill, and experience. Such friendship is far better in terms of worldly gains.

Enmity:

The priority of a wise man is to avoid friction. Enmity must be avoided at all instances, but sometimes you are not left with an option other than to confront. If it happens, then ensure that you have right set of reasons. It will be useless to:

  • Chase a lost cause.
  • Indulge in a rivalry, just to satisfy your ego.
  • Involve yourself in a conflict where the potential gain is less than required input.

Hopefully! you got the point.

Conclusion:

Physical gains matter a lot, and much higher is the worth of mental satisfaction. Helping others and especially ones who cannot return the favor is one of the best ways to acquire peace of mind.

Before giving, you’ll require to gain and by doing friendship with right people you can gain almost everything.

* Please do not confuse metal satisfaction with idea of satisfying own ego. Have a nice day!

 

Not to Disclose your Weaknesses

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It has been observed that we humans have a tendency to seek sympathy/acceptance of others. Not all, but most of the people do so and in the flow of emotions we reveal a lot of things that were to be kept as a secret. Most probably you yourself have experienced such moments.

Let me tell you one thing that relationships are very dynamic in nature. With time your opponent might become your friend and your trustworthy friends might turn hostile. Also, you cannot be so sure about real intentions of the person in front with soft tone and a lot of sympathy.

You can either risk your safety by revealing your weakness or you can ensure your well being by remaining silent. The choice is not simple, but very simple!

Still, I keep hearing the replies like “I know, but I can’t control myself. Please suggest something”. In such cases the problem can only be fixed by you. Self Control is the simplest answer. No rocket science involved.

Another issue that I would raise today is about substance abuse and alcohol consumption in particular. After getting drunk people say anything (somethings everything). There are obvious health benefits of not drinking alcohol. Another good reason for not drinking alcohol is that you remain in your control and your weaknesses remain a secret.

The moral of the whole story is that you must not share your secrets; even with a friend. Why provide a good friend with opportunity to turn bad. I repeat “SELF CONTROL” is the key. Use it …

  • I never said that you must ignore your weaknesses. Whatever be the fault, it must be fixed.

Think Rational and Think Positive

Emotional Aspect:

Nobody desires trouble in life, but everyone has some or the other problem to deal with. These troubles create a mental unease.

For sure our emotions guide us. To which path they lead; depends on the situation as well as on the nature of emotion itself. In other words it can be said that emotions interfere with our way of thinking either in positive or in negative manner.

To deal with any problem you will require eliminating the mental unease and get yourself into a calm & relaxed state of mind. Bigger the problem, greater will be the pain. Greater the pain, more important it becomes to think positive and to stay calm.

Yes! Positive thoughts can be of great help in eliminating the mental pain. This is the reason why every motivational speaker talks about ‘Positive Attitude’ from time to time.

Be Realistic and Be Rational:

When figuring out a solution, you must do it without or with minimal emotional interference. Just be rational!

This approach helps you in identifying “what’s really important?” and “what the reality is?”. On the other hand a person under influence of his emotions might overlook something important. A man must be smart enough to differentiate between emotional guidance and emotional interference.

Chanakya said  ” दुःसाध्यमपि सुसाधयं करोत्युपायज्ञाः ” i.e.  “One who knows the solution turns difficult into easy”. It’s time!