- Sometimes it seems like human nature to find flaws and faults in others and to broadcast them to whomever will listen. This is a useless and damaging practice that needs to stop — especially within a marriage. In a marriage, the husband and wife are on the same team. Thus, a wife should never tear down her husband — to his face or behind his back.
Speaking negatively invites more negativity
Perhaps you had a fight or there are some personality traits or habits that just annoy you. You are tempted to call your girlfriend or family member to “vent.” Pretty soon, you’re thinking of more things that you may not like about your spouse. Not only that, but your venting partner is now thinking those same negative things. As you tear down your husband, the negativity grows rapidly, like pouring gasoline on a fire. Ultimately, it creates greater animosity toward your husband, and the results are nothing but bad.
Instead, try speaking about positive traits or not talking at all
Find things you love about your spouse and dwell on those instead. If something is really bugging you, rather than discuss it with someone (unless it is your husband and talking about it will be productive), try just writing it down and throwing it away. No one likes to be criticized or have their short-comings magnified. There’s always something good about your husband — that’s why you married him in the first place! You may be surprised how your relationship might change for the good by being uplifting instead of hurting your husband.
Whether you are negative to his face or behind his back, the words can cause damage
It’s a painful process to learn, grow and try to change and improve. It’s even harder when the person closest to you will not allow you to change by always rehashing your past faults. Having your closest friend and partner bring you down with hurtful elaborations on your flaws is counter-productive. When you focus on all the things he may be doing wrong, it can potentially hurt your husband mentally, emotionally and physically.
Try building him up often
Husbands really try their best. Compliment the things he does. Thank him for working to provide for the family. Let him know that he is a great dad. Tell him you appreciate him. Remind him of your love for him. Make sure he knows what a great husband he is for you. There is always something wonderful to see. If it’s hard, start small with something like the way he looks. Look for the good he does and compliment that — just like negativity can grow, so can positivity!
A marriage takes teamwork and being on the same side
If you are constantly working against each other with fights, insults or other negative acts, your marriage will likely be unhappy and potentially end in heartache. On a sports team, if teammates were constantly elbowing, kicking shins or talking smack to each other, the team would fall apart. Similarly, you will begin to resent each other, not work together and become enemies. By focusing on bad qualities, you are ultimately damaging your relationship and marriage.
Good and effective communication, bonding as a couple and building each other up are necessary for a healthy marriage. Your attitude toward your husband can make all the difference. Focusing on his good qualities can make all the difference. When problems arise — and they will — working together for solutions is a lot easier when you can speak with respect and love to your husband.
Kindness, love and respect can go a long way in improving behavior, thwarting negativity and learning to be a team. Avoid tearing down your husband. Find the wonderful things about him that you fell in love with and focus on those. Your marriage and relationship depends on it.
Lying is never a great idea, especially when it comes to sexual intimacy. “The definition of intimacy is letting another person see your vulnerabilities,” says Ford, and that includes admitting that your sex life might need some S.O.S. When you pretend you’re enjoying sex, you may think that you’re sparing his feelings, but you’re actually pushing him away by not being honest. And chances are, you aren’t fooling him: The very fact that he’s asking usually means he suspects that something is up. When broaching the subject, start with the positive: “Express appreciation of the fact that he even wants to know—’that’s so thoughtful of you, honey,'” suggests Ford. Then, while you’re both clothed and not in the bedroom, bring up some things you enjoy sexually and that you would like to try in order to enhance the experience next time around, taking care not to place blame on him. By emphasizing what arouses you and what you two can do in the future, you’ll spare his feelings without duping him in the process.
2. “You’re just like your father.
1. Affairs / infidelity / cheating (see: Surviving Infidelity and Infidelity Warning Signs). This includes emotional infidelity, one-night stands, internet relationships (including ‘sexting’), long- and short-term affairs and financial infidelity
- Sexual Problems, particularly loss of libido (Male and Female) and including questions around your gender (bisexual?), or your partner’s gender (bisexual?)
Significant differences in core values and beliefs
Life stages – you have ‘outgrown’ each other or have ‘changed’ significantly for whatever reason
Traumatic and/or Life-Changing Events (see also: Brain Injury Symptoms)
Responses to prolonged periods of Stress, such as Work-Related Stress, long-term illness, mental health issues, Financial Problems, problems with the children, infertility and many more
Bored in or with Your Relationship or …
Being Bored with ‘Life’
Treating each other, or feeling as though you are being treated, with contempt (see: Relationship Communication)
Domestic violence, which includes verbal as well as physical abuse: THE most serious relationship problem. See Signs of An Abusive Relationship.
Knowing you should not have got married in the first place! (See my relationship or marriage compatibility test: Stay or Walk Away)
Lack of responsibility regarding finances, children (see: Children in the Middle), health and many other issues
Unrealistic Expectations – still thinking your partner / spouse is the princess / knight and not seeing the ‘real’ human being
Addictions – substance abuse (see: Alcoholism Stages)
Excessive reliance on social media, at the cost of the relationship (see: Facebook Problems)
Lack of support during particularly difficult times from people that matter to you
Manipulation or over-involvement in your relationships with family or friends
Lack of communication about important matters
Poor division of and / or one-sided lack of responsibility for chores and tasks. It is not always women who complain about this relationship problem!
Perceived lack of concern, care and consideration / attentiveness: feeling the relationship is one-sided is a big one!
Significant personal disappointments and traumas that lead to a change in relationship dynamics (see: Your Partner in Prison)
Long term depression or other mental health issues suffered by one partner or both (see: Natural Depression Treatments)
Significant differences in opinion on how to discipline / deal with the children (see: How Divorce Affects Children and Children in the Middle)
Long-term stress, particularly when not taking responsibility for doing something positive to address the cause, or about learning to handle it if it cannot be changed (see: Stress and Your Relationship and Adrenal Fatigue Symptoms)
An unsupportive partner during pregnancy and/or significant problems after the birth your baby. See: How to Deal with a Birth Trauma and Before You Consider Suing for a Birth Trauma
by watching porn one become dissatisfied with their regular partner.
porn can dull your ability to lease and be pleased by, your partner.
too much stimulation of the brains may dangerous .
sex and mating circuitry obs-tracts the mammalian instinct toward monogamy.
why we spent time and money to make database of pleasure.it is a called Coolidge effect .
because of porn,man and female jerk off to images than have sex that’s the problem .
dopa mine is the hook in all addictions.
too much stimulation actually numb the pleasure response of your brain.
the reality is that neuro chemically induced dissatisfaction deep in the brain is urging you to seek more stimulation.
libido thermostat has been readjusted , you feel restless more of the time.this effect is called “tolerance”.
addiction process at work in the brain.
by watching porn we are getting into “copulatory impotence”. means you for porn not to partner.
intercourse has more beneficial than masturbation
daily warm touch between couples benefits men by lowering blood pressure.
fantasy based on pornography create stress, hollow mind and unstable & unsatisfying.
your brain always urges you to focus on the option that releases the most dopa-mine. it doesn’t care what best for your stress and for health.
UNDERSTANDING WHY PORNOGRAPHY RUIN
brain responds from information received from the eye quicker than from any other source.
internet? problem now days
whenever we use Internet 99% must watch porn and end with porn.
porn is become synonymous for internet for all now. this is a problem what we do?
today internet situation .
pornography eats away at the inner soul.
pornography leaves you with self depression, frustration, discouragement , hopeless, hollowed and fatigue.
todays young people situation—
“whenever i log into the internet i must view porn.”
discovered that it is of addiction , our pleasure centers(addiction views)are housed in the mid-brain
or limbic system , which is not under the direct control of the conscious mind or the frontal cortex.
frontal cortex keeping us active and this part function at the subconscious level that’s why we mostly complaining about night fall mostly in man.
when one views pornography there are a whole cocktail of pleasure chemicals released in the limbic regions
of the brain.
such chemicals as dopamine,norepinephrine, oxytocin, and serotonin bind the brain to seek certain behaviors that will produce a euphoric feelings state.
neuroscience has shown that all addictions both drug and natural are caused by a deficit of dopamine in the reward system.
brain can heal itself.
THE HOPE OF RECOVERY
wake up early in the morning before sun rise and talk morning walk in cold morning breeze that’s good for recovery
- if one has deep desire to change it is not only possible but probable .
- it is needed proper therapy to heal this .
- porn addiction is a disorder of pathological decision making to get rid off from this always happy and believe in other good work
- strengthening pre-frontal cortex to mange it more effectively .
crime like spying , peeping , touching ,teasing ,molesting ,lie, multiple relationship is just few its only becuse of urge for more porn and satisfication it lead the victim to criminal…
sexual addiction is described as a progressive intimacy disorder characterized by compulsive sexual thoughts and acts
sex addicts as per study can involve in illegal activities such as voyeurism , exhibitionism , obscene phone calls
child molestation and rape.
consequences of sexual addiction may he devastating to not only the addict but also those close to him /her.
it can leave an addict isolated, immensely anxious , depressed , low esteem , hopeless , shame and despair.
MAIN ALA RAM SITUATION
if your sexual behaviour is exhausting your time and energy and it causes you to compromise your core vaules
and the beliefs that you hold dear to your heart then there is cause for alaram.
aphrodisiac food— stimulates sexual desire.
thyroid hormones and sexual hormones have high risk and faces lot of problems.
estrogen and progesterone are common female sexual hormones.
testosterone and androgen are male hoormones.
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HOW DOES SOMEONE CURE PORN
feels desire to look at it again when he sees a sex scene in a film.something as plain as a TV ad or a magazine
at the grocery store can lit off the triggers to look again. so how does one know to cure porn?
narrow line that for too many men walk of mitigating their behavior.
getting over porn is not as easy as saying that he no longer looks at nude pictures for the reason that
a swimsuit ads can trigger the same chemicals in the brain as porn.
they (addict) lie to themselves about what they are doing?
will power the only hope for recovery.
a problem cannot solved by the same mind that created it.
dopa-mine increased mental alertness and awareness.
dr fisher said ” male college students think just as much about food and sleep as they do about sex.”
YOUR BRAIN ON SEX
limbic circuits control almost all bodily functions.
the lim bic systems job is to keep you alive and reproducing .
it does this by avoiding pain and repeating what is pleasurable.
its where you fall in and out of love, or lust.
your world revolves around dopamine neurochemical player behind falling in and out of love is dopamine.
dopamine nearly drives all your behaviors.
the more dopamine you release and the more your reward circuit is activated the more you want or crave something
dopamine is like the booster which make us go after the goal ..so its our responsibility to use the good way.
food and sex are known as ” natural reinforce rs “. they aren’t drugs b ut our brains light up for them so we reach
for more without thinking.
pornography can steal our attention from soothing connections with real people, but also hook us. heavy porn use sometimes discourages the user’s pursuit of friendly interaction with others.
your vision for real world change
struggling with real girl
performance on bed goes down
tastes shifted time to time.
wicked thought make mind wandering
the more you scratch the more itch
be safe after watching porn you really not trust ful with real girls
DON’T GIVE UP. GIVE IT ANOTHER TRY,DON’T STOP TRYING